Why do you want to go and put stars in their eyes?
Posted Saturday, 10 February 2007 at 11:51
If you are seriously hip like me (joke), you will know that is a song by teenage artist, Just Jack - novel name.
Being a teenager today is nothing like it was in my day. Sex is commonplace at fifteen. There is no mystery, no magic, nothing is special anymore. STI’s are commonplace and rising rapidly and teenagers as young as thirteen turn up at GUM clinics for help. (Genito Urinary Medicine).
My fifteen year old is still naive, still a mummy’s girl, and still believes everything I say. The day they were being taught at school how to place a condom on a banana, I almost wept with relief that she was ill. Omigod! Am I becoming the next Mary Whitehouse?
She is beautiful, in mind and looks, thinks the best of everyone and everything – her blonde curly locks and her big blue eyes make everything innocent, but I can’t compete with Just Jack. I can’t compete with every sexually explicit movie to hit the screens. I can't compete with every teenage mag or perfume advert to hit the billboards, and I certainly can’t compete with X factor or pop Idol, or Kate Moss. Every teenager wants to be a star.
I am at a loss to know what to do when it comes to the bottles of Smiroff Ice which I happen to disscover in her friend’s bags when they come to stay. Maybe that’s why my house is so popular for sleepovers? Yes, I do check the bags.
I have my beautiful naive daughter in the palm of my hand for only weeks or months and certainly not past the Reading festival on August 24th. Little does she know I have booked her camping spot in the family arena, a desperate last gasp attempt by myself to keep her young, to protect her from whatever she may be exposed to on other sites! She promised me she would never be older than ten.
Sometimes I want to scream and rail against the subliminal exposure our teenagers are subjected to. Omigod! – I am becoming the next Mary Whitehouse! When my daughter put her hand over my eyes during the intimate scenes in Shakespeare in Love, mild by any of today’s standards, and said, laughing, “Don’t look mummy”, is this where it’s at today? Are our teenagers more confident and knowledgeable than we ever were? And is this a good thing?
I think the celebrity obsessed culture we live in sets our young people up for a fall.
Why do you want to go and put stars in their eyes? Kate Moss and Just Jack et al have a lot of disappointment and discontented childhoods to answer for.
Responded: Monday, 12 February 2007
I'd love to know exactly what Just Jack has done to earn your ire. The song from which you borrow the title of this post is a well-observed attack on the manipulative culture of "Reality" TV, especially the various talent contests which encourage people to humiliate themselves on national TV, take a few talented ones and then exploit them until the next series comes along and the programme-makers dump the star they found last year and start the process all over again.
Responded: Tuesday, 13 February 2007
Just Jack made it to the Birmingham Carling Arena last week through the snow, bumping his car, risking life and limb - and then sang to my daughter because he was obviously impressed that she knew the words to every one of his songs. He is a hero, a role model, I applaude him. I even love the stars in your eyes song and had it on repeat tonight as I packed.A little bit like Streets, but, hey, who cares?
Responded: Tuesday, 13 February 2007
"My fifteen year old is still naive, still a mummy’s girl, and still believes everything I say"
Why do so many parents believe this?!
I can assure you, if she's mixing with people her own age in a normal school, this is certainly NOT the case.
I think parents need to accept that from the age of 13/14 their children grow up very quickly.
Every parent thinks that their kid is different - even I did - but I can assure you, they're not.
You need to prepare your daughter for adult life during her most vulnerable years; which are 15-18.
Responded: Wednesday, 14 February 2007
What's wrong with kids learning to put condoms on bananas?
You mentionned that there is a huge rise in STIs? Well, this is a helpful way to make people aware of contraception.